I was just sitting here laughing to myself because my husband will joke around and say "sounds like something an angry black girl would say" after I comment on something that we were talking about.
But that actually got my wheels turning. Why is it that black women are classified as angry, mad, spiteful, shallow, hateful, BITCHY, hypocrite, hoes. I can go on and on with adjectives. I've been called a lot of things but rarely any of these.
I was watching Scandal last night and another thought came to my mind. I remember reading a post on Facebook that said that if the races were reversed on the show that black women would be so mad about that that we wouldnt even watch the show. How is this a fair statement?
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What you see above is the blog that I originally started writing last Thursday. I changed my mind about what I wanted to write after I saw this video on Facebook of a young girl named Sharkiesha that sneak attacked another girl over none other than a dude. The reason for the slap isn't even the issue. This whole situation contradicts my original thought that people make these wrong assumptions that black women are angry.
For those who have not seen this disgusting video: Two teenage girls appeared to be having a discussion while someone was shooting a cell phone video of them. The one girl looks to have turned away from the other girl (Sharkiesha being the other girl) just kind of looking in the other direction. She gets slapped (and I mean SLAPPED) by the Sharkiesha. She continues to beat the unsuspecting girl as if she killed her mother. Then out of nowhere she kicks her and I mean KICK. The instigators finally pull Sharkiesha off of her.
Once the beating is over, the reason for the fight (or whatever that was) is revealed. What was Sharkiesha so mad about?? What else, a boy. Yes she beat this other girl down because of a dude. The victim put a statement out on FB saying that the reason that she was unable to fight back was because sharkiesha's entire family was standing there and she knew that she would have just been jumped.
This video is just one example of why black women are considered to be angry. How can I possibly defend us when videos like these are circulating all around the internet? They disprove my point that the angry black woman syndrome is a myth, an assumption.
I just find it fascinating that we are still fighting. Its not like we're fighting injustice or women's rights. We're fighting each other almost to the death it seems. Blame it on being drunk or going through some personal issues but there is no excuse. Do we really just have too much pride to walk away? Maybe some of us can but some of us feel as though we have something to prove. We need to prove that we can defend our men. That would be an insecurity. We need to prove to these other chicks that we ain't scared to take an ass whoopin because we got looked at you the wrong way knowing you can't fight. That's another pride issue.
People are going on to Worldstar and You Tube to watch us make fools out of ourselves. People are going out of their way to see ANGRY BITTER INSECURE black women fight. Instead of calling the police or breaking up the fight, people are pulling out their phones to shoot video! I just wonder what these videographers would think if someone went out of their way to video their mom or sister taking a beating or giving the beating. Would it still be funny?
The fact of the matter is that we have set ourselves back so far. And its not just this classless fighting. I hear so many young black girls talking, everyday plain old conversation, and their mouths are just filthy. This new generation of young women is being raised to talk this way. How do I know? I hear it from the mothers. I was in Family Dollar one day and I heard a young lady say to a child (couldn't have been any more than 3 years old) "shut the fuck up before I punch you in your chest. You ain't gettin shit". I was in Family Dollar on Tuesday and I saw a little boy standing in the aisle screaming. The mom is just shopping. Not even paying him any mind. She goes to cash out and tells him that he better come on or she's leaving and proceeds to curse him out. I heard a little girl call her mom "girl" in conversation like that was her homie. These are the pictures of black mothers today and what their kids will be in the future!
If I go into what I see on IG and Facebook I'll be writing forever. I've already written in a previous blog about how our beauty has been targeted to one section of our bodies and that our asses seem to be the only thing that men seem to care about these days. Women 25 and under take pictures from the back and not the front and can't figure out why they can't get a respectful decent man but a bum.
TV plays a big part in the assumptions that are made about black women. All of these Love and Hip Hop shows make us look like complete clowns. I respect Peter Gunz for coming out and saying that he did it for the money but he is also a clown. I don't watch the show but I listened to an interview that he did. Yes these shows make men look bad too but their behavior is expected because of stereotype that has been placed on them for years. But when women start running around acting like they really are K.Michelle and thinking that her behavior is cute that's a problem.
The point is that black men or men in general have earned the right to dog us. Its not right but its the truth. Social Media and just any type of media is proving them right. It's being glamorized. Its a circus and its disgusting.
How can we revise and reinvent? How can we turn our negative assumptions into positive truths? Where do we start? Well first it starts with positive reinforcement at home. Do we as mothers need to be mean to show that we control our children? Do we need to scare them into respecting us? No. I do not have to scare my children in order for them to be quiet. I don't curse at my child. Its not necessary. Don't tell your kids that they're bad even when they really are. Stop bringing your domestic disputes home. Children are impressionable. Your behavior will reflect in their behavior. Talking bad about black men and how "they ain't shit" will cause a black man to disrespect you and call you angry. If you don't want to deal with them, fine but to make a generalization like that gets you nothing. And stop making yourself look like a walking circus act.
There's so many things that are being done ass backwards that I can't list them all. I don't have the solutions, just suggestions. There's so many influences out there that should be used as reference points like Michelle Obama and even older influences like Angela Davis, Maya Angelou, Claire Huxtable (yeah I said Claire Huxtable). Everybody watched Black Girls Rock but you would never think that we do with all of these negative images of us out there. We gotta change it somehow.
Reinvention and revision ....it sounds good but will it happen????
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