I was at work daydreaming, looking out the window and I started thinking about the changes that have occurred in my life and the things that are about to become. I got married in December to the greatest man EVER. After I got married I started to have these feelings that I never thought that I would have. In fact I never even thought that these feelings even existed.
I have never thought of myself as a spiritual person but something happened on December 28th 2012. I really did feel that our souls actually combined. When I stood at that alter and said those words, I felt like I was saying things that I should have said 19 years ago. After that day I found myself doing things that I wouldn't ordinarily do.Like SMILING for now flipping reason lol
When Tom Cruise said " you complete me" on Jerry Maguire, I thought it was corny. But now I understand, HE COMPLETES ME. I need my husband. By no means is he perfect and I will never be the perfect wife. But we are who we are and our spirits were brought together for a reason.
I used to always listen divorcees say "the next time I get married it's going to be for money" and I would laugh because I had never been married but is that what happily ever after is supposed to be. Hearing things like that used to make me feel afraid to tie the knot. Was I going to also be unhappy if I got married? It just sounded scary to hear the stories of cheating husbands/wives. It made me wonder "were you unhappy when you got married? did it just happen and when?" I won't lie, I was scared to death. Divorce rates were up, casual sex was at an all time high and people around me didn't make marriage sound like something I wanted to do. Like they say, if it ain't broke don't fix it so we continued to shack up.
After speaking to a pastor who literally laughed at us when we explained our issues to him, he said you know there's an evil spirit in your home that is trying to make you unhappy. Your issues are minor. Why are you not married? (Not exactly those words but pretty close). All we could say was we don't have any money to get married or we wait to buy a house first. All he could say was WHY? You have each other. Your issues acan be resolved. You don't even know that when you have that union so many things in your life will change. you will be blessed beyond blessed. It made me think "is he pulling my chain? are you not allowed blessings because you're not married?" After some thought I understood what he meant lol.
The benefits to being married aren't financial like some people think. The love that I already had for my husband grew after the union. Our souls mated and we became a unit much bigger than what we were before. And guess what? The blessings started flowing in. People could see the happiness on our faces. I felt like people wanted to be us.
There are things that I am still learning about becoming a good wife. I'll never be perfect and my husband understands that (I hope lol). And I know that there are things that he also needs to work on. But I have been trying to learn some things from a source that I believe counts in most people eyes and that is the Bible. I read this one and I think that it helps me. Its Ephesians Chapter 4 verses 2-3. It says "be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace." People should use that in everyday LIFE. Trust me I'm still working on it. I have had to make some changes but in the end it's all worth it.
I know that you can't just run out and marry the first man/woman you think you should marry. It's really not that easy. People tend judge others because they are so picky about who they date. There's nothing wrong with that. Marry the person that you know you will be the happiest with. Forget what your single girlfriends/homies says. They want you to be unhappy right along with them. Forget what your family says. It's not about them. You may have to lose a few friends and family members. The Bible also says something along the lines of leaving your mother and father for your wife. Basically saying your priority now is your union. You don't have to ignore your family and friends but now you have your own family. A wise man once told me that the person that you need to make the happiest is the person that you spend you every waking moment with. If you can't be happy and the other person is just as miserbale then they ain't it. Keep looking. There's someone for everyone.
The bottom line is that I definetly have a new spring in my step and a new attitude towards life. I am going to grow old with this man and sit on our porch swing with a glass of lemonade. To quote Ne-yo "I'm a movement by myself, but I'm a force when we're together". Now I understand it. Im sure thats not what he was talking about (marriage) but same concept. I will stand on the mountain top and tell the world how much I love my husband! He makes me better....
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